May 1, 2023
Exploring Fear: Understanding Its Roots and Overcoming Its Grip

Are you familiar with the feeling of fear? It's that uncomfortable sensation that can grip us and prevent us from taking action towards our goals and dreams. Fear is a common emotion that we all experience at some point in our lives, but do we really understand its roots? What causes us to feel fearful, and how can we overcome its hold on us?

These are the questions we'll be exploring in this blog post titled "Exploring Fear: Understanding Its Roots and Overcoming Its Grip". This topic was inspired by joining Facebook groups for entrepreneurs, where the most common word floating around was fear. Many people in these groups expressed a fear of failure, which may be preventing them from taking action towards their goals.

But fear is not just limited to the realm of entrepreneurship. It can show up in all areas of our lives, from relationships to personal growth to facing our deepest fears and insecurities. So, it's essential to understand its roots and learn strategies to overcome its grip on us.

If you're someone who struggles with fear, whether it's fear of failure, fear of rejection, or any other form of fear, then this post is for you. We'll be delving into the causes of fear and exploring practical tips and techniques to overcome it.

So, if you're ready to face your fears and take action towards your goals and dreams, then let's dive in and explore the topic of fear together.

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Dealing with Fear: Insights for Overcoming Fear and Taking Action

Fear is a natural emotion that can be difficult to manage. It can keep us stuck in our comfort zones and prevent us from taking the necessary steps to achieve our goals. In this blog post, we will explore how to deal with fear and become a fear-facing person.

To become an action taker, you must first learn how to deal with fear. Fear is often seen as a negative emotion, but it can actually be useful. Fear can protect us from danger and motivate us to take action.

When facing fear, it's important to understand that it won't necessarily disappear completely. However, we can learn to manage and overcome it. By acknowledging our fear and recognizing it as a natural response to uncertainty or perceived danger, we can begin to take action despite it.

Despite our efforts to deal with fear, it can still be sneaky and hold us back. Fear can give us an excuse not to act, protecting us from the possibility of failure, rejection, or criticism. However, if we let fear hold us back, we may never achieve our goals.

The amygdala, the part of our brain responsible for fear, evolved to protect us from physical danger in the jungle. However, in modern society, this same response can prevent us from taking the actions necessary to achieve our goals.

We've all faced fear at some point in our lives. It's important to remember those moments when we acted in the face of fear and achieved something we didn't think was possible. These moments can serve as a reminder that we are capable of facing our fears and taking action despite them.

Becoming a Fear-Facing Person

The goal of facing fear isn't to become fearless but rather to become a fear-facing person. We can do this by acknowledging our fear, recognizing the value it provides, and taking action despite it.

One acronym for fear is Forget Everything And Run, but we can also choose to adopt a different perspective and adopt the acronym, Forget Everything And Rise. We can rise to the challenge, face our fears, and move forward towards our goals.

Fear can be a powerful emotion, but it doesn't have to control us. By acknowledging our fears and taking action despite them, we can become fear-facing individuals who achieve our goals and live fulfilling lives. Remember, fear is a natural response, but it doesn't have to hold us back.

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Overcoming Fear: How to Shift Your Identity and Take Control

Fear is a common feeling that holds people back from achieving their goals. Many people try to give advice to those who are afraid, but that advice is not enough to make a change. What is needed is an identity shift. This shift helps people to become the person who deserves success and to live a life that is in alignment with their true identity.

A friend and client of mine recently bought a 3 million-dollar house, but she called me crying because she did not feel like she deserved it. She believed that the universe had made a mistake and that everything would crash and burn. It was deep within her identity that she did not believe she deserved such success. I helped her to realize the identity of the woman who deserved the house, and she became excited about it and stopped feeling terrified.

It is essential to ask yourself, "How do you know you're afraid?" This question shifts the perspective onto behavior and shows you that you are in control. It is essential to know when and where you feel fear. You might feel it in your body or have a chattering head. The frequency of exposure to fear is important, as it can help you to realize that the thing you fear is less scary than you thought.

It is not weakness to catch your lingering fears. It is powerful because it allows you to make foundational exponential change. You can then learn new skills more effortlessly. Every leadership book, strategy, and time management skill already exists, and you could know them for free. But fear clogs up the nervous system, making it difficult to digest the material and take action.

Many people are afraid of failure, but what they need is to fail more. If you want to be a billionaire, you need to fail way more and sometimes bigger and more dramatically. Failure is necessary to achieve your goals, and fear of failure should not hold you back.

Overcoming fear requires an identity shift that aligns with who you truly are. Ask yourself how and where you feel fear, and realize that it is not weakness to catch your lingering fears. Failure is necessary to achieve your goals, and fear of failure should not hold you back. Remember that you are in control of your behavior, and fear does not have to control you.

Fail Your Way to $10,000 a Month: Overcoming the Fear of Failure and Success

Many service providers and entrepreneurs have a big goal of earning $10,000 a month, five figures a month. They believe that they must be successful to reach that goal, and once they get there, they will finally be successful. However, many people struggle for years to reach this goal while following this paradigm.

What if we could flip the script? Can you fail your way to $10,000 a month? The answer is yes. Many people have failed extravagantly and still reached their goal. Therefore, fear of failure should no longer be an excuse to not do something.

However, we must also consider the fear of success. Sometimes people are more afraid of success than failure. Success can be an unknown, and people may not be familiar with it. They may fear the commitments, attention, or change that comes with it.

Furthermore, some may be afraid of appearing braggy or not humble if they achieve success. This fear can hinder their ability to promote themselves and their skills. They may resort to self-deprecation or undercutting their achievements to avoid being seen as boastful.

To achieve big goals like earning $10,000 a month, we must face our fears of both failure and success. We must realize that failure is not the end and can bring us closer to winning. Similarly, success is not a destination but a journey. We must embrace it and the challenges that come with it to reach our full potential.

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Creating the Environment for Success: Overcoming Fear and Uncertainty

Fear and uncertainty can hold us back in many areas of our lives, from personal relationships to professional endeavors. But what's even more fascinating is how our behavior can match up to our identity, often creating an environment that prevents us from reaching our full potential.

Think about it: if you're afraid of failure or uncertain about how a decision will play out, you may avoid taking risks or making bold moves. And that behavior can lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy, where you don't reach the level of success you're capable of achieving.

In the world of business and marketing, this can be particularly detrimental. If you don't declare your audacious aspirations and take a stand for what you can achieve for your clients, you're missing out on creating an environment for success.

For example, if you're a marketing professional and don't guarantee any relative lift or change for your clients, there's no environment to support you in creating that change. But when you declare what you can do and what success looks like, you're putting your own feet to the fire and creating a shared vision of transformation.

It's important to remember that setting audacious goals doesn't mean you have to be all or nothing about it. You define success and what it means to achieve a certain outcome, but the trap that some fall into is anything short of that is a failure. This kind of thinking can be paralyzing and prevent us from taking any action at all.

But failure is a natural part of the process, and it's how we learn and grow. If you don't reach 100% of your goal, that's okay. You can still deliver a significant lift, learn from what went wrong, and optimize for the future. And if someone is so focused on the exact percentage promised that they would demand a refund for falling a few percentage points short, it's a red flag that they may not be the kind of client you want to work with anyway.

The key is to declare what you fear and what you're uncertain about, and create an environment for success by setting audacious goals and defining what success looks like. When you put your private parts on the table, so to speak, you're both in the environment of that big, juicy result. And from that environment, everything can feed the transformation.

Creating the Environment for Success: The Power of Speaking Your Goals

Many of us have dreams and goals that we keep close to our hearts. We might be afraid to share them with others for fear of failure or judgment. But what if I told you that speaking your goals out loud can actually help you achieve them? In this post, I want to share with you one of my own goals that I have been holding back on and how I am changing my approach to achieve it.

I have been working on a book called 'Vibe Tyrant', but I have not spoken much about it. Why? Perhaps because I was afraid that it might not be successful or that I might not finish it. But in doing so, I was actually creating the environment that held me back from achieving my goal. So, I decided to change my approach.

I started by speaking my goal out loud. I declared that 'Vibe Tyrant' would impact one million lives. By doing so, I created a sense of accountability for myself and enrolled others in my mission. By speaking about it openly, I am creating the environment for success.

But speaking your goals out loud is not just about accountability. It also helps to bring clarity to what you want to achieve. By saying my goal out loud, I realized that I needed to finish the book first. And so, I am making progress towards that goal.

I invite you to try this exercise for yourself. If you notice that you are holding back on a goal or dream, try speaking it out loud. Add an 'unless' at the end of any negative self-talk and see what clarity it can bring. You might be surprised at how much power there is in simply speaking your goals out loud.

I encourage you to create the environment for success by speaking your goals out loud. It's not about hype or tactics, but about creating accountability and clarity for yourself. And who knows, maybe by speaking your goals out loud, you too will achieve something great.

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The Power of Saying It Out Loud

Sometimes, we hold ourselves back from achieving our goals by not speaking about them out loud. We may have a fear of failure or the unknown, but we must learn to face our fears and create an environment that will help us level up. In this blog post, we'll explore the power of saying it out loud by sharing an example of someone who has been holding back on their dreams.

And so I will share with you something I have been holding back. There are a couple of things, but I'm just gonna do one for today, one thing at a time. I've been working on a book called 'Vibe Tyrant' for a while now. I've mentioned it in passing here or there on these calls, but I don't talk too much about it. Why? Probably because I've been creating the environment where, well, whatever happens, if I never launch the book, that's okay. If only two people read it forever, that's okay, I didn't hype it up too much, I didn't talk too much about it.

But in doing that, I've created the environment that holds me back from getting that outcome. So I'm changing it up. We're gonna do something different. And if you would like to, you can follow me on this journey as I do it. Even if I only get 80% of the way there, it's a big win and it's better than not saying anything at all. So here it is, 'Vibe Tyrant' will impact 1 million lives. For months, I did not say this, but how can I create the environment where it will happen unless I start saying it?

There are second and third order consequences of this, right? Because you guys will be enrolled in my mission. And when you guys read the book, you'll be like, oh man, I gotta help Laura help this book impact a million lives. I'm gonna tell my friends about the book. Those are some of the tactical outcomes in doing this, but really the tactics are not the reason I'm doing it. I'm sharing them with you as a teachable moment, but I'm doing this so that my feet are to the fire and I create the environment where 'Vibe Tyrant' impacts a million lives.

If you're interested in following along, you can go to There is no autoresponder behind this, there's nothing, but you will know as I build and gear up for the launch. I will keep whoever signs up because they're raising their hand and saying they're interested in it. All of the inner workings that are gonna go on behind the scenes to have this launch be so big that a huge domino is knocked down on my path to it, impacting a million lives, and me making a million other little vibe tyrants out there, which would truly be fantastic. That would light me up.

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How Six-Word Updates Can Help You Synthesize Information

One of the most powerful tools I've learned from my mentor Dan Nicholson is the practice of sharing six-word updates. This process helps us distill our key takeaways, thoughts, questions, and open loops from the material we've learned together. It's amazing to see how much can be communicated in just six words, and I always learn something new from other people's contributions.

But why is this exercise so powerful? When we're learning new information, it can be overwhelming to try to process and remember everything. By condensing our thoughts into just six words, we're forced to focus on the most essential information and synthesize it into a clear and concise message. It's a skill that can be applied to any area of life, and the more we practice it, the better we become at distilling complex ideas into their most fundamental components.

Becoming a Fear-Facer

As humans, we often mask our fears by saying we're busy or that we know what we're doing. But what if we drop the conditional "if" and admit that we're uncertain about something? What might we do to find more certainty in that area?

This exercise can help us become more comfortable with facing our fears, and even help others do the same. For example, if you sell a service and your prospects are afraid to sign up, instead of trying to convince them otherwise, you can show them how their fear is prudent and how you will be with them no matter what.

When working with prospects or clients who have fears about succeeding, it's important to handle those fears in a high-integrity, authentic, and honest way. Instead of making broad promises that they won't fail or screw it up, acknowledge that they may make mistakes and that it's okay. Let them know that you'll be there to support them every step of the way.

Final Thoughts

Finally, I want to express my gratitude to all of you who have taken the time to read and listen to my posts. I encourage you to actively participate in the community by sharing your own thoughts and experiences. Together, we can learn and grow and become better versions of ourselves. Thank you for reading, and I look forward to seeing your six-word updates in the Facebook group!

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Laura Catella | Mindset CoacH | Founder of Diamond Day Mastermind
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